How To Kill Off A Negative Attitude –Part 3

(Continued from Part  2)

You have the power to achieve amazing things … IF you have the right attitude. And you can have a powerful positive attitude.

It starts with killing off any negative attitudes that may be getting in your way. I’ve already given you five strategies for doing exactly that. But here are three more strategies you may not have thought of.

Sixth, avoid those places where your negative attitude plays itself out.

Avoid those situations or conditions that reinforce your negative attitudes or bad habits.

For example, if you’re more likely to gossip when you sit and wait in the employee lounge, then stay out of the lounge if you’re trying to defeat the habit of gossip. Or if you crave a cigarette after a meal, busy yourself with some other activity. You’ll be surprised how much easier it will be to kill off your negative attitude.

Seventh, relax and re-energize.

Negative attitudes tend to make you tense or lethargic, one of two extremes. If you do the opposite, you will reeducate your mind and body to do something different than give a negative response.

If you find yourself under pressure, if your negative attitudes are out in full force, try some deep-breathing exercises when the tension hits you. As you exhale, let the tension flow out of your body.

If you’re feeling de-energized, imagine yourself full of energy. See yourself achieving the goals you want to achieve. Hold this image of yourself until the pull of the negative attitude has dissipated. Over time, you will find that the lethargy comes less often.

Finally, do the opposite of what your negative attitude is making you do.

Do it over and over and over again, and eventually you will replace your bad habit with a good habit.

It’s like the young man carrying a violin case on 57th Street in New York City. He asked an elderly gentleman, “Could you tell me how to get to Carnegie Hall?” The elderly gentleman promptly replied, “Practice, practice, practice.”

That’s how one of my acquaintances defeated one of his bad habits. He had the bad habit of making unkind remarks about other people. And he naturally associated with people who behaved similarly.

One day he made an especially nasty remark to his wife concerning a business associate. His wife had all she could take of his meanness, and in no uncertain terms she told him what she thought about his harshness.

Fortunately, he took her lecture to heart and decided to get rid of his bad habit. He began doing the opposite of what he was used to doing. He sought out people with positive attitudes. He avoided conversations where others were being put down. Whenever he was tempted to say something mean, he would consciously stop himself. Instead, he would look for something kind he could say about the person.

It didn’t take long before people began to notice a change in him. His wife said, “It wasn’t easy for him. So many times he would start to say something and stop right in the middle of a sentence. But today, I can honestly say, I haven’t heard him make one nasty remark in six months. He’s made a habit to say something nice or say nothing at all. I’m really proud of him.”

Tomorrow morning brings another day. I challenge you to rise and shine. Once and for all throw out the “rise and whine.” You’ll be glad you did, and so will everyone else in your world.

About the Author

dr alan zimmermanDr. Alan Zimmerman‘s formal education includes a Bachelor’s degree in Speech and Political Science, a Master’s degree is in Speech-Communication and Sociology, and a Doctorate in the field of Interpersonal Communication and Psychology.

After 15 years of work as a university professor, he founded the Zimmerman Communi-Care Network, Inc. in 1985, a speaking, training, and consulting company with offices in two states and employees in two countries. As the president of that company, Dr. Zimmerman has delivered hundreds of presentations across the world and maintains a 92% repeat and referral business. For more about Dr. Zimmerman, please visit his website at