A negative attitude will defeat you more quickly and more completely than any competitor you will ever have. You simply cannot afford the luxury of a negative attitude.
So how do you kill off a negative attitude if you’ve got one? In Part 1, I gave you the first two strategies. Let’s look a little deeper today.
Third, stop your negative thoughts.
Refrain from thinking a particular goal might be impossible. Don’t allow yourself to think, “That’ll never work.”
Every time a negative thought comes to mind, think the word “Stop!” You may have to do it ten or twenty times, but it will eventually work.
If thinking “Stop” doesn’t work fast enough, or if the word “Stop” doesn’t last long enough, try saying “Stop” out loud. That’s right, shout it out. Say it firmly, authoritatively.Notice how well the technique works for you.
If you’re still struggling with a particular negative thought after a period of time, use the hand signals for “Stop.” Just like a traffic cop puts up his hand to signal “Stop,” put up your hand to “Stop” a negative thought. You can even say it and do it at the same time.
Try these three “stopping” exercises. You’ll probably find that one of them works better for you than another. That’s fine. Keep on using it. You will master the skill and eliminate the negative thought that leads to the negative attitude.
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Fourth, refuse to verbalize the negative.You’ve got to break the vicious cycle.If you think negatively, you’ll speak negatively.
And if you speak negatively, you’ll act negatively.
For example, don’t talk about your “bad habits.” Drop the word “habit” from your vocabulary. Or at least use the word sparingly.
There’s a strong connection between the words you use and the
behavior you exhibit. When you talk about your bad habits, you may be empowering them. You may be saying or implying that you just can’t help yourself or stop yourself from doing certain things.
Yes you can!!! But the more you talk that way, the more entrenched your negative attitudes and bad habits become. So be very cautious about verbalizing the negative.
Instead of saying, “It’s going to be a bad day,” say, “It’s going to be a wonderful day.”Instead of saying, “There’s no way I can pay these bills,” say, “I’ll find a way to get through this.”Instead of saying, “I’ll never be in shape,” say, “I can get in shape.”
By verbalizing the positive, you are conditioning your mind to be more positive.You are taking control of your thoughts rather than have them control you. You are affirming that great line in William Ernest Henley’s poem, “Invictus.” He wrote, “I am the master of my fate; I am the captain of my soul.”
Fifth, visualize the positive.
Whenever you find yourself thinking a negative thought, picture the opposite. Picture the positive instead. Create a new image to hold in your mind.
If, for example, you have the bad habit of expecting failure rather than success, begin to imagine yourself as successful. Great business leaders do it all the time. They picture themselves walking around their new office in their new corporate headquarters as they’re working at a card table in the garage.
Or great free-throw shooters in the NBA picture the ball going through the basket. PGA golfers picture the ball going straight down the fairway. Your positive visualization will help kill off your negative attitude. And your positive visualization will make you more successful.
Perhaps you have the bad habit of worrying. In fact, your worry might even stop you from doing the good things you need to be doing. That’s what was happening to one of my audience members — until he learned how to visualize.
He sent me an e-mail, saying, “A month ago I was employed by a large corporation.I had a good job with a steady income. Everything was going smoothly. In fact, I have to admit I was becoming rather complacent. Then the roof fell in.
“Because of the economy, my company was forced to lay me off. I panicked.I was overwhelmed by a negative attitude. How would I pay my bills or feed my family? It was frightening. I worried and worried for days on end, too paralyzed to do anything.
“Then I remembered what you said about visualizing.I began to visualize myself as a successful business person.I pictured myself doing all the things I would need to do to be successful.
“From there I lined up interviews with every company I could find.I read the want ads.I followed up every lead.
“Two weeks later I found a better job than the one I’d lost. I got a job with a better salary, more opportunity, and more challenge.
“Thank you for showing me how to kill off my bad habit of worrying and how to get on with life.”
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About the Author
Dr. Alan Zimmerman‘s formal education includes a Bachelor’s degree in Speech and Political Science, a Master’s degree is in Speech-Communication and Sociology, and a Doctorate in the field of Interpersonal Communication and Psychology.
After 15 years of work as a university professor, he founded the Zimmerman Communi-Care Network, Inc. in 1985, a speaking, training, and consulting company with offices in two states and employees in two countries. As the president of that company, Dr. Zimmerman has delivered hundreds of presentations across the world and maintains a 92% repeat and referral business. For more about Dr. Zimmerman, please visit his website at http://www.DrZimmerman.com